The Only Things You Can Control

 

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The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

We tend to have a need to have control over our lives, and if your anything like me you have to have control over everything and you hate feeling out of control. Unfortunately we don’t have control over the things that happen to us, but we do have control over how we respond to the situation. We tent to attach ourselves to the negative aspects of what happens to us. This could stem from how you were raised, this could stem from you seeing the reactions from the adults around you when you were growing up, or it could be the beliefs and ideas of the people you surround yourself with. This all really doesn’t matter you have no control over your childhood, but you definitely have control over what type of an adult you are. You have control over every decision you make and don’t make. We’re constantly making decisions everyday and every minute of the day. We make decisions on what type of foods we want to put in our bodies, we make decisions on how we see ourselves, how we treat ourselves, how we allow other people to treat us, etc. It all causes a chain reaction to what will  happen later that day, later that week, later that year, or what happens a few years later.

We try so hard to control things that we’ll even cling on to anything that feels safe or familiar even if it’s bad for us or are keeping us from reaching our full potential. I’m not just talking about clinging on to material things and people, I’m also talking about clinging on to thoughts and ideas. If you’re attached to the idea that you hate your job so it doesn’t matter if you only put in half the effort, because you’re only there to collect a paycheck. But what you truly want is a job and a life that you jump out of bed giddy with disbelief that you get to go to a job that doesn’t feel like work because you love it so much. You have to take responsibility for your thoughts and actions. If you have to work a job you hate because it’s going to get you closer to your goals then do it and remember why your doing it. Remembering why your doing something that is going to get you closer to the type of life you want to live will hopefully change your perception on not wanting to do that task or that job. If it just then you need to rethink how back you want that goal, or why do you want that goal? Is it something you truly want or are you doing because someone else thinks you should and you want to make them proud.

The things that we can control are the most important things just like choosing to love ourselves. Also lean into the bad things or the “bad days” It doesn’t matter what happens if we approach it with an open mind we’ll learn a lesson from that situation and come out a better and stronger person for it. Now if you believe that your beliefs and ideas are right or you don’t think you have control over feeling negative, or you think your not being negative you just telling “the truth”, then your mind will stay closed and you won’t learn anything. By not learning from you situation or your mistakes you’ll keep repeating them over and over, then you’ll fall into the victim mentality of “why is this happening to me?”. I don’t know about you but I rather be the hero in my story then the victim aka the damsel in distress. So let go of the need to control things, situations, and even people, and take responsibility and control over your thoughts, beliefs, actions, and ideas.

 

Things you have control over.

  • What you think about
  • What you say to yourself
  • What your thankful for
  • How your interpret situations
  • How you act on your feelings
  • How much effort you put into something
  • When you smile
  • When you sleep
  • Your physical fitness
  • Your mental health
  • Your body language
  • How seriously you take life
  • The people you allow in your life
  • What you talk about
  • How you take care of yourself
  • How you take care of your things
  • The kindness you give to the people around you
  • Your perspective on the world
  • What you make a priority in your life
  • The things you choose to believe in
  • How hard you try
  • How personally you take something

 

That’s all I have for tonight. I hope you got a new perspective on what you have control over, if you didn’t know this already. So take control over your thoughts and actions, and don’t let anyone have control over your emotions. Only you have control over you.

-CC

60 Ways to practice self care

 

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We have to take care of ourselves before we can help anyone one else.

– Unknown

 

Practicing self-care is extremely important for our mental health and helps us recharge and take our lives head on. Practicing self care and self love are the most important things you can do.

 

Here are the things you can do

  1. Yoga.
  2. Eat more foods that come from the Earth and not a lot of the processed foods.
  3. Wear clothes that you feel confident in.
  4. Find an exercise that you really enjoy so you don’t dread working out.
  5. Exfoliate your body.
  6. Come up with morning affirmations that you can tell yourself everyday.
  7. Put on a facial mask.
  8. Go on long walks with your dog.
  9. Reward yourself every time you do a difficult task.
  10. Call a friend.
  11. Binge watch your favorite shows.
  12. Adopt a new hobby.
  13. Donate clothes and items that you no longer want or use anymore to someone less fortunate.
  14. Make a To Do List every night for the next day. (Make sure you do the things you don’t want to do first that way the list gets easier as you check it off.)
  15. Take your make-up off every night.
  16. Accept yourself as you are. (The Good, The Ugly, The Beautiful, The Stinky, The Sexy, Etc.)
  17. Drink tea before you sleep.
  18. Shower.
  19. Forgive people who have wronged you in the past. (Not for them, but for you. It’s not healthy to hold on to negative feelings towards other people.)
  20. Listen to uplifting podcasts.
  21. Have a mini dance party everyday. (While you get ready for your day or while you fold laundry, or whenever you want.)
  22. Stretch every morning when you wake up.
  23. Start a journal. (Document your feels and/or experiences)
  24. Do your hair and make-up. 
  25. Watch the sunset whenever you can.
  26. Do your laundry.
  27. Host a movie night for your friends and/or family.
  28. Start a habit that you’ve always wanted to pick up.
  29. Wash your face.
  30. Have a morning routine.
  31. Have a night routine.
  32. Allow yourself to dream big.
  33. Write a letter to yourself for a year from now telling yourself where your going to be .
  34. Drink water.
  35. Have a vision board collage somewhere you’ll be able to see it everyday.
  36. Meditate for 10 to 15 minutes.
  37. Clean out your email box and unsubscribe to spam emails. 
  38. Make sure you keep up to date with doctor appointments. 
  39. Go to bed early.
  40. Start reading a book.
  41. Un-friend people that don’t make you feel good about yourself, or don’t act like a friend to you.
  42. Listen to upbeat or soft music when you wake up in the morning.
  43. Bake your favorite treat.
  44. Go to bed early.
  45. Read inspirational quotes.
  46. Say three or more things that your grateful for. (do it everyday)
  47. Open all the curtains and blinds when the suns out to let light in.
  48. Walk barefoot on the ground .(in the dirt, in the grass, in the sand) Any place where you feel grounded with Earth and Mother Nature.
  49. Make goals for yourself.
  50. Go for a walk on the beach. (if possible)
  51. Go for a bike ride.
  52. Pamper yourself.
  53. Meal plan every week.
  54. Go to the farmers market and buy fresh fruits and vegetables.
  55. Get or give yourself a manicure and a pedicure.
  56. Smile at strangers.
  57. Make your bed every morning.
  58. Go for a nature hike.
  59. Unplug from everything for at least an hour a day.
  60. Compliment someone even a stranger.

 

 

 

 

June’s Inspirational Quotes

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Hey Babes, I can’t believe June is almost over and half of the year has passed, but on the bright side its time for my monthly inspirational quotes post.

  • Stop waiting for Friday, for Summer, for a boy to fall in love with you. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make something of the moment you’re in right now.
  • Find something that makes you happy and don’t let anyone take it away from you.
  • What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.
  • Anyone can give up. It’s the easiest thing in the world to do, but to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.
  • Travel as much as you can, as far as you can, as long as you can. Life’s not meant to be lived in one place.
  • The comeback is always stronger than the setback.
  • Your vibe attracts your tribe.
  • All good things are wild and free.
  • Our greatest weapon against stress is the ability to choose one thought over another.
  • If you get tired, learn to rest not quit.
  • There are so many people out there who will tell you that you can’t. What you’ve gotta do is turn around and say “Watch me”.
  • Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.
  •  Never give up on a dream just because of the time it’ll take to accomplish it, the time will pass anyway.
  • Salt water cures all wounds
  • The only time you should ever look back is to see how far you’ve come
  • There are secret opportunities hidden inside every failure.
  • Sometimes when things are falling apart they actually may be falling into place.
  • You are not what happened to you. You are what you choose to become.
  • Sometimes I feel like giving up, but then I remember I have a lot of Motherfuckers to prove wrong.

Inspirational quotes for the month

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Hello Gorgeous, Happy Friday! I can’t believe we’re half way through March already! This post is coming extremely  late, but I want to make sure I post these every month. Reading inspirational quotes can change your mood or your out look on something, It’s definitely a mood booster and we should read them everyday, and especially if we’re in a negative state of mind.

 

QUOTES:

  • People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
  • Life is like a camera, you focus on what’s important, capture the good times, develop from the negative, and if things don’t work out take another shot.
  • Everyday may not be good, but there is something good in everyday.
  • Not till we are lost… do we begin to find ourselves.
  • Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.
  • You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and loved more than you know.
  • Happiness isn’t about getting what you want all the time. It’s about loving what you have and being grateful for it.
  • You are responsible for what you say and what you do. You are not responsible for whether or not people freak out about it.
  • Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.
  • You decide how much words hurt you. Nothing grows until it’s fed.
  • If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan. Never the goal.
  • Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right.
  • Be the leading character in your story.
  • Just do your best.
  • Invest in yourself.
  • A bad attitude is like a flat tire, you can’t get very far until you change it
  • What other people think of you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
  • We rise by lifting others.

 

 

 

Spring Bucket List

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Hey Gorgeous, if you haven’t noticed yet I love making lists. I make lists about everything and anything, it helps me stay organized and it also helps me remember things. So I’m sure you can guess what this post will be. It’s my Spring Bucket list! Every season I like having a mini list of the seasonal things I like doing at that time of the season.

 

BUCKET LIST:

  • Redecorate the patio (add plants and string lights, new chairs, etc)
  • Start a mini herb and flower garden
  • watch the sun rise
  • Go on a hike
  • Make some Spring DIY’s
  • Go out to brunch more often
  • Read “Sacred Powers” by Davidji
  • Go to the Farmers Market
  • Do Yoga everyday instead of twice a week
  • Learn how to make vegan baked goods
  • Add more plants to the apartment
  • Spring Clean the apartment
  • Redecorate and Reorganize my office/beauty room
  • Redecorate the master bedroom
  • Post more fashion and DIY’s posts up