The Only Things You Can Control

 

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The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

We tend to have a need to have control over our lives, and if your anything like me you have to have control over everything and you hate feeling out of control. Unfortunately we don’t have control over the things that happen to us, but we do have control over how we respond to the situation. We tent to attach ourselves to the negative aspects of what happens to us. This could stem from how you were raised, this could stem from you seeing the reactions from the adults around you when you were growing up, or it could be the beliefs and ideas of the people you surround yourself with. This all really doesn’t matter you have no control over your childhood, but you definitely have control over what type of an adult you are. You have control over every decision you make and don’t make. We’re constantly making decisions everyday and every minute of the day. We make decisions on what type of foods we want to put in our bodies, we make decisions on how we see ourselves, how we treat ourselves, how we allow other people to treat us, etc. It all causes a chain reaction to what will  happen later that day, later that week, later that year, or what happens a few years later.

We try so hard to control things that we’ll even cling on to anything that feels safe or familiar even if it’s bad for us or are keeping us from reaching our full potential. I’m not just talking about clinging on to material things and people, I’m also talking about clinging on to thoughts and ideas. If you’re attached to the idea that you hate your job so it doesn’t matter if you only put in half the effort, because you’re only there to collect a paycheck. But what you truly want is a job and a life that you jump out of bed giddy with disbelief that you get to go to a job that doesn’t feel like work because you love it so much. You have to take responsibility for your thoughts and actions. If you have to work a job you hate because it’s going to get you closer to your goals then do it and remember why your doing it. Remembering why your doing something that is going to get you closer to the type of life you want to live will hopefully change your perception on not wanting to do that task or that job. If it just then you need to rethink how back you want that goal, or why do you want that goal? Is it something you truly want or are you doing because someone else thinks you should and you want to make them proud.

The things that we can control are the most important things just like choosing to love ourselves. Also lean into the bad things or the “bad days” It doesn’t matter what happens if we approach it with an open mind we’ll learn a lesson from that situation and come out a better and stronger person for it. Now if you believe that your beliefs and ideas are right or you don’t think you have control over feeling negative, or you think your not being negative you just telling “the truth”, then your mind will stay closed and you won’t learn anything. By not learning from you situation or your mistakes you’ll keep repeating them over and over, then you’ll fall into the victim mentality of “why is this happening to me?”. I don’t know about you but I rather be the hero in my story then the victim aka the damsel in distress. So let go of the need to control things, situations, and even people, and take responsibility and control over your thoughts, beliefs, actions, and ideas.

 

Things you have control over.

  • What you think about
  • What you say to yourself
  • What your thankful for
  • How your interpret situations
  • How you act on your feelings
  • How much effort you put into something
  • When you smile
  • When you sleep
  • Your physical fitness
  • Your mental health
  • Your body language
  • How seriously you take life
  • The people you allow in your life
  • What you talk about
  • How you take care of yourself
  • How you take care of your things
  • The kindness you give to the people around you
  • Your perspective on the world
  • What you make a priority in your life
  • The things you choose to believe in
  • How hard you try
  • How personally you take something

 

That’s all I have for tonight. I hope you got a new perspective on what you have control over, if you didn’t know this already. So take control over your thoughts and actions, and don’t let anyone have control over your emotions. Only you have control over you.

-CC

60 Ways to practice self care

 

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We have to take care of ourselves before we can help anyone one else.

– Unknown

 

Practicing self-care is extremely important for our mental health and helps us recharge and take our lives head on. Practicing self care and self love are the most important things you can do.

 

Here are the things you can do

  1. Yoga.
  2. Eat more foods that come from the Earth and not a lot of the processed foods.
  3. Wear clothes that you feel confident in.
  4. Find an exercise that you really enjoy so you don’t dread working out.
  5. Exfoliate your body.
  6. Come up with morning affirmations that you can tell yourself everyday.
  7. Put on a facial mask.
  8. Go on long walks with your dog.
  9. Reward yourself every time you do a difficult task.
  10. Call a friend.
  11. Binge watch your favorite shows.
  12. Adopt a new hobby.
  13. Donate clothes and items that you no longer want or use anymore to someone less fortunate.
  14. Make a To Do List every night for the next day. (Make sure you do the things you don’t want to do first that way the list gets easier as you check it off.)
  15. Take your make-up off every night.
  16. Accept yourself as you are. (The Good, The Ugly, The Beautiful, The Stinky, The Sexy, Etc.)
  17. Drink tea before you sleep.
  18. Shower.
  19. Forgive people who have wronged you in the past. (Not for them, but for you. It’s not healthy to hold on to negative feelings towards other people.)
  20. Listen to uplifting podcasts.
  21. Have a mini dance party everyday. (While you get ready for your day or while you fold laundry, or whenever you want.)
  22. Stretch every morning when you wake up.
  23. Start a journal. (Document your feels and/or experiences)
  24. Do your hair and make-up. 
  25. Watch the sunset whenever you can.
  26. Do your laundry.
  27. Host a movie night for your friends and/or family.
  28. Start a habit that you’ve always wanted to pick up.
  29. Wash your face.
  30. Have a morning routine.
  31. Have a night routine.
  32. Allow yourself to dream big.
  33. Write a letter to yourself for a year from now telling yourself where your going to be .
  34. Drink water.
  35. Have a vision board collage somewhere you’ll be able to see it everyday.
  36. Meditate for 10 to 15 minutes.
  37. Clean out your email box and unsubscribe to spam emails. 
  38. Make sure you keep up to date with doctor appointments. 
  39. Go to bed early.
  40. Start reading a book.
  41. Un-friend people that don’t make you feel good about yourself, or don’t act like a friend to you.
  42. Listen to upbeat or soft music when you wake up in the morning.
  43. Bake your favorite treat.
  44. Go to bed early.
  45. Read inspirational quotes.
  46. Say three or more things that your grateful for. (do it everyday)
  47. Open all the curtains and blinds when the suns out to let light in.
  48. Walk barefoot on the ground .(in the dirt, in the grass, in the sand) Any place where you feel grounded with Earth and Mother Nature.
  49. Make goals for yourself.
  50. Go for a walk on the beach. (if possible)
  51. Go for a bike ride.
  52. Pamper yourself.
  53. Meal plan every week.
  54. Go to the farmers market and buy fresh fruits and vegetables.
  55. Get or give yourself a manicure and a pedicure.
  56. Smile at strangers.
  57. Make your bed every morning.
  58. Go for a nature hike.
  59. Unplug from everything for at least an hour a day.
  60. Compliment someone even a stranger.

 

 

 

 

Stop comparing and let go of perfect

Hey Babes,

For the past four months I’ve struggled with what type of content I should post. If I’m being honest with you guys, in my mind I thought I have to have the perfect photos of me in cute outfits for the fashion post I want to start posting or the perfect photos for all my other posts that I have planned out. I had all of the content for spring planned out, but I felt like all of it wan’t good enough or it’s been over done and been done better then what I had come up with. I started to realize I’ve been doing the same thing with all of my social media platforms. I’ve had my instagram account for over a year, I had to make a new one because I forgot the password to my old one and I wanted all my social medias to have the same handle. Anyways I’ve this account for about a year now and I have profile picture, but I still haven’t posted one picture yet. I just never feel like the pictures I take are not as good as the photos of people with the perfect bodies, the perfect healthy meal, the perfect yoga pose, the perfect vacation, the perfect lifestyle, etc, etc. Now my OOTD selfie isn’t good enough. Same with Facebook and Twitter. How sad is that!

How did all of a sudden my ideas, my creativity, my life not become good enough to show and celebrate. I know deep down I don’t believe that, and I’m well aware that social media is just a highlight of peoples lives. Everyone has their bad days, their stressed days, their depressed days, their anxious days, etc. I just don’t know how I fell into that deep hole of perfection and comparison. So this is why I’m writing this post tonight. For everyone that feels the need to do things perfectly all the time and to the ones that take 150 selfies just in hopes that they will find one thats good enough to post online.

I’m not here to bash or hate on social media at all, I think its a great way to connect with our loved ones who live across the country or half way around the world, or to connect with complete strangers over things we have in common. I’m just here to say you can admire someones social media and even strive to get to where they are in their lives, just don’t get lost in the filtered parts of it all. We have control over what we choose to compare ourselves to and we have control over what we think of ourselves. We should never compare ourselves to anyone. We’re all on our own journey that are going in different ways and in different lanes. Comparing ourselves really has no purpose if we’re going after our goals and striving to live our best lives, while do the absolute best we can. Which this brings me to letting go of perfection.

Perfection is an unreal concept that we have come up with, and the funny thing is one persons perception of perfection isn’t necessarily the same as another persons. So why are we striving to be perfect? Is it to be liked and be accepted and praised by others? Yes 100% yes! But even when we do things perfectly its still not good enough for us. So let go of perfect and just do your best. Every time you do something whether it’s your work or a simple task ask yourself, “Is this the best I can do?” If the answer yes then you’ll be happy, but if the answer is no then just try again and actually do your best. When you do your best peoples opinions of you just won’t matter and you won’t feel the need to compare yourself to anyone else because you know deep down your doing your best and that’s all that really matters.

That’s all I have for tonight. I hope that reading this post helped at least one of you release a little of the weight off of your shoulders. talk to you guys tomorrow.

-CC

June’s Inspirational Quotes

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Hey Babes, I can’t believe June is almost over and half of the year has passed, but on the bright side its time for my monthly inspirational quotes post.

  • Stop waiting for Friday, for Summer, for a boy to fall in love with you. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make something of the moment you’re in right now.
  • Find something that makes you happy and don’t let anyone take it away from you.
  • What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.
  • Anyone can give up. It’s the easiest thing in the world to do, but to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.
  • Travel as much as you can, as far as you can, as long as you can. Life’s not meant to be lived in one place.
  • The comeback is always stronger than the setback.
  • Your vibe attracts your tribe.
  • All good things are wild and free.
  • Our greatest weapon against stress is the ability to choose one thought over another.
  • If you get tired, learn to rest not quit.
  • There are so many people out there who will tell you that you can’t. What you’ve gotta do is turn around and say “Watch me”.
  • Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.
  •  Never give up on a dream just because of the time it’ll take to accomplish it, the time will pass anyway.
  • Salt water cures all wounds
  • The only time you should ever look back is to see how far you’ve come
  • There are secret opportunities hidden inside every failure.
  • Sometimes when things are falling apart they actually may be falling into place.
  • You are not what happened to you. You are what you choose to become.
  • Sometimes I feel like giving up, but then I remember I have a lot of Motherfuckers to prove wrong.

Summer 2018 Bucketlist

 

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Hey Babes, Summer is officially here! I’m so happy that the season of BBQ’s and beach bonfires is officially here. Every season I make a list of all the things I want to do for that season. I’ve noticed doing all the seasonal things makes me appreciate the seasons more. Feel free to add some of your favorite summer to do’s down in the comments.

 

So Summer 2018, let’s get it starter.

 

  • Go on a Road-Trip
  • Go to the Beach
  • Have a Bonfire
  • Go to a Barbecue
  • Go to a Country Concert
  • Go to the Drive-In Movie
  • Go to another state (haven’t decided which one yet)
  • Start my plant family
  • Go to the Farmers Market
  • Go up to the Lake
  • Give the Balcony a Make Over
  • Watch Fire Works
  • Go to the Wine Walk they have in my town
  • Make S‘mores 
  • Go for a bike ride
  • Go to the State Fair
  • Go Glamping
  • Go to the local pool and have some drinks 
  • Go to Food Truck Friday that town holds
  • Go to the Hot August Nights Events
  • Attend a Comedy Show
  • Go to one of the Pub Crawls 
  • Go to the Water Lantern Festival
  • Take lots of pictures
  • Put more work into my blog
  • Find more things that inspire me
  • Go restaurant patio hopping
  • Morning out door yoga

 

These are the fun things I’m looking forward to for the next two months. What time of things are you babes planning? Comment down below and tell me what types of things your planning on this summer.